It has been nearly a month since my last post. Much has happened during that time. I plan to update you all when I come up for air. It may be another two to four weeks before I get back to regularly posting again.
In the meantime, a dear friend has someone in his life who is going through very dark times. My friend is struggling with how to be there for the person. Below is my feedback to him. I post it in the hope that it may help others in a similar situation.
With Love,
Russ
Just being with someone in pain (whether emotional or physical) can be hugely comforting to them. I often just sit with them, taking my cues from what they let me know they need.
Some just want to sit in silence. Words can get in the way, and silence can be eloquent.
Sometimes they need to vent, to spew anger, bleed pain, or speak their fears to someone who will listen and stay in their fire with them.
I’ve found that most who want or need feedback let me know by asking questions. In those cases, what usually works best for me is to speak my truth from a loving place. It helps me to stay focused on the hope that everyone involved in the situation ultimately experiences lasting happiness.
Some need to be touched, whether a hug, an arm over the shoulder, or to be literally held up when they can no longer stand on their own. I tend to go with my gut on this and adjust as the situation warrants.
Your time and caring are great gifts you are giving. May they help him to ultimately experience lasting joy.
Russ
